This article was recently shared with me by a colleague. I believe in what it has to say and I am an active participant in the theory it holds. Please read it and see if you can find reasoning to practice the principles it shares and also learn how to teach it to the people whose lives you lead and affect......
ps.. Great video I posted at the bottom from one of my favorite speakers on Change!
Brian
A man walked into a psychiatrist’s office and said, “Doc, every time I see nickels, dimes, and quarters, I have a panic attack! What can the problem be?”
“Oh that’s easy,” answered the doctor. “You’re just afraid of change.”
A majority of people go through life virtually paralyzed because they are afraid of change- afraid to try something new or different?
This fear limits our abilities and keeps us from expanding our growth, knowledge, and success in life. To break out of this vicious cycle of fear, we need to understand the meaning of fear in the true sense of the word.
FEAR really stands for:
False Expectations Appearing Real!
So how do we change? And how can we be a change-agent for others?
If a person is satisfied with his life, will he change?
No, a satisfied person will not be interested in changing because he is happy and content with his current situation. If satisfied with their lives, even people who are unfit, overweight, or unhealthy are still unlikely to change.
Most people have the ability to change the instant they become unhappy with their lives. Others have to wait for a stroke or another disaster before they realize the need to change. Where are you on the spectrum?
Somewhere in there, there is a happy medium for you. ActionCOACH’s simple change formula helps understand the process of change and what we can do to affect positive changes in ourselves and in others.
(D x V) F > R
('D' stands for Dissatisfaction, "V" stands for Vision, "F" stands for First Step and “R” stands for Resistance.)
To overcome the resistance to change, what needs to be greater? What can tip the scale to overcome our fear of change? Let’s take a closer look.
The “D” in the formula stands for Dissatisfaction. Before a person can change, he/she has to have a level of dissatisfaction in his/her current life-situation.
What builds dissatisfaction more than anything else? The answer is: “V” for Vision.
Let’s say that you are a kid living in an impoverished neighborhood. You don’t know any better life than that. Are you dissatisfied with your life? Not necessarily; you may be satisfied because you don’t know any better.
Why do people hire a business coach or have a mentor?
This formula applies to businesses and can explain why some businesses prosper and grow, while others remain at the same or lower level of performance.
They do so to help them expand their comfort zone and grow their vision. They need help in order to clearly look at what their next level is and what it can be. A business coach will also equip the business owner with a set of goals and hold him accountable to make the changes required to achieve those goals.
Dissatisfaction is based on a belief that there is something else out there. This applies to business owners because they have to make a choice to change and consider their own business.
One of the things a business coach will explore is the business owner’s level of dissatisfaction or discomfort, because without it you will not do the work required to change. Typically, people don’t like feeling dissatisfied and remain in their current state, instead of progressing.
This psychology applies to the average business owner, who, without a coach or a mentor, stays in his comfort zone, instead of taking his business to the next level.
Dissatisfaction is only the first step in the process of initiating the process of change. A business coach will then help a business owner develop his vision, and also a belief that this vision is possible to achieve.
Those kids living in the impoverished neighborhoods can watch television and they can see other places in the world, but they must also believe that a different life is possible for them.
At this point, a business owner is talking to a business coach because of a vision and a belief that he can have a better business. This meeting is a business owner’s “F”: First Step.
The question is, "How do we raise the dissatisfaction level of where you are now and how do we raise the vision of where you want to go?"
Most of us need both to overcome the “R” - resistance to change. Lee Iacocca, states that the discipline of writing something down is the first step toward making it happen.
Take the time to write out your dissatisfaction and your vision and what you will do first to get it. By doing so, you will begin to break through the barriers in your life and stretch your comfort zone to reach the level of success you have only dreamed about so far.
Use this formula not only to help facilitate change in your life but to be an agent of change in the life of others as well. Help them understand and qualify their dissatisfaction. Help them build their vision for what they want to achieve, and finally give them the first steps to move toward that goal.
By following this simple formula, you can truly become an agent of change in your life as well as the lives of others, and take your business to the next level.
Nido Qubein Video on Change http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NCtenQ-_8h4
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