I understand how much we all have to deal with EGO, with learning how to love self or with overcoming the battle of self image. Each and everyone of us may get lost in the forest of “Decisions” that really determine who we are. We all at times make mistakes and yet we also do some good each day so in the end its a scoreboard we are building that determines our character.
Why do we do it? ….because inside of almost every human there exists an innate desire to be “Correct” this is not about being “right” because being “right" is a self image issue, a napoleon complex issue, a struggle with self love. When we are secure in self we are more confident to make decisions based on our higher value system of being kind, loving, generous, tolerant and hardworking.
When we are less confident in our selves we often feel the need to be more important or be seen as “right" due to our weak egos. Choose instead to be Correct which means you will often have to battle yourself, because you will come face to face with your ego in many of life's circumstances and decisions while learning to do the correct things.
Why is doing the Correct thing or making the correct decision so hard? Because the world is really not about you or any other single person. It is instead about lots of people coming together in different circumstances to create energy which often brings with it friction. When that friction comes up we all want to be EGO maniacs and be “RIGHT” but as soon as we try to be right we are likely farther away from doing whats right. (If you want to be right then learn how to do right)
I have had the opportunity to work with a true sociopath before (a person with a personality disorder manifesting itself in extreme antisocial attitudes and behavior and a lack of conscience.) I called this an opportunity because I saw the battle of ego in a different way by watching him, I think for some people the battle of ego turns into a personal drive that they have to always be of importance and at the center of every decision. If our focus becomes too much about self eventually we train ourselves to not care very much about others and that creates sociopathic tendencies. It is a very slow drip and we get thousands of chances to stop this process but if we do not stop, we will eventually become hardened to caring for others and solely focused on our self importance. I have only known one person I would consider a true sociopath who could no longer stop themselves from lying, manipulating and basing all decisions on his personal desires but I have seen many on this same road having theses tendencies repeatedly in their life. Stop the process before its too late because you, like the one I knew, will not know that everyone around you is aware of your character and whether or not they should trust you after you have lost sight of whats Correct.
I understand that these are tough issues (lacking empathy for others) that some of us may face but most of us do not lack the empathy to see the other persons point of view. One of my mentors has often said that obtaining our own irrelevance is the key to life because inside of your irrelevance you will find peace and that is all that will truly matter in the end. We very often fail at exercising the empathy to hear opposing views but we still have the ability if we choose to listen, to think and to do whats Correct instead of choosing to look like we are “right”.
Every day we live we are adding another day to our reputation, to what people know us to be because our actions are real and obvious even when we think we are covering it up. There are a lot of people who’s search for self importance causes them to use others which causes destruction of relationships and yet these same people have to keep creating new relationships to survive due to driving people off.
Why find new relationships? because as human beings we need to come together with other human beings to explore this course called life. If you are not able to check your ego then you will have to keep creating new relationships but eventually everyone sees you for who you really are by the actions you keep choosing to do... to either be Correct or be selfish and always need to be “right".
None of us wants to be known as users of others….. too selfish to examine where we may be wrong.. … as someone who struggles with truth over self interest.... or unable to find an answer that may not be all about self.
It will cause all of us challenges until we are more committed to being Correct instead of being right!
Today is a new day full of interactions and opportunities to be correct. Good luck in making you next choices in who you really want to be.
Enjoy the Search,
Dugger
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