This quote reminds us that all Great Achievement is driven by Sacrifice and not by Selfishness. It is often very hard to remember but the challenges we face within ourselves always result from our own actions. We are only in possession of frustration because we are “ALIVE" to feel it. As Dr. Wayne Dyer so often taught ....If we were to die tomorrow, any angst, fear or frustrations would certainly die along with us. So how do we keep from creating the frustration to begin with? We look at our motivations behind the actions that led us to our frustrations. We were all created as beings who love to give to others. In truth both of these words (Loving, Giving) are actually the same thing but what helps us create greatness and find happiness? .....
Understanding these two words and the way they act within each other and within our choices every time we speak or interact with someone else we are choosing to operate from either Love or from Selfishness. Loving is Giving and yet the opposite is also a true statement. When we stay true to loving the world and those in our world they and it will remain open to us and who we are. It creates such a high and overwhelming feeling of gratitude when we love others and feel loved by others. But if we lose our way…...if only for a moment…..and we slip towards selfishness it all fades in an instant. Selfishness is built in protecting, taking, defending and none of these characteristics will allow us to remain vulnerable. Without choosing vulnerability we cannot experience true love because we are more concerned with protecting "Self" (selfishness).
There are many forms of “loving” like loving BUT only as long as I get what I need…..or loving BUT only as long as it does not hurt too much….or loving BUT only as long as I do not feel too much at risk. Each of these statements allows us to feel a little bit of the joy that comes with loving but the selfish side of each of these statements always creates frustration because we chose to keep our fears alive and remain guarded.
We are all in need of being loved and in need of loving others so do whatever it takes today to correct the wrongs of your selfishness. If you stop and think for no more than 30 seconds you will know something you need to do or someone you need to speak with to create new giving and this will lead you closer to your happiness. Work really hard to let others know that you care more for them than you care for protecting yourself. We all make mistakes in this arena, sometimes really HUGE mistakes but knowing what matters most is what leads us away from frustration.
Do not let this day go by without making at least one more step in taking responsibility for your selfishness. If you wait it prolongs your challenge with receiving what you deserve. If you take action to do the right thing it will diminish your frustrations and allow you to receive the love you need and want. It will also remedy the challenges you may now be feeling from your selfishness.
Great passage from the bible to examine love…….Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
This short talk by Brene Brown on Vulnerability may help if you want to learn more..
