Questions Instead of Answers?
I am always amazed at how simple the journey of life can be boiled down at times. Our entire lives we are taught to have the answers...
Get the job done.
Know what you are talking about.
Be in control.
Leaders always win
And the list can go on but I do not want to perpetuate the problem so I will stop there. I too believe that moving yourself into a leadership position can give you greater opportunity but it could be both good or bad!
Your leadership is dependent on the culture of thinking you have adopted. If you are driven to always have the answers and not to feel the angst or pain of life that we all have from questioning the crazy events of life then you are not being authentic. If leaders are not authentic then they will never be good leaders for long. True leaders realize that the journey of life is full of questions of what is right and what is wrong. The beliefs we hold today must be opened to be shaped tomorrow. The journey never ends and that is why it is ok to be frustrated, challenged, angry, scared and all of the other emotions that should come from within as we experience ALL that life has to offer. On the contrary we have been conditioned that life is supposed to work out for us in a manner of perfection in finances, perfection in relationships, perfection in our accomplishments, perfection in us winning. Winning can be just the opposite, it is in the unconditional acceptance of life and what life brings that makes us winners. Embracing challenge and seeing it as opportunity to learn and grow and be honest with others about what you are feeling.
I love the line from Wayne Dyer that simply states "It is now and always was perfect" That simple acceptance of life and what it delivers us can be so empowering!
Knowing that the good things are perfect is easy.
Knowing that we do have the right answer for the situation we are in is also easy.
Knowing that it is perfect when things are going to hell or challenging us in situations we have never been in = NOT so easy!
The statement that accompanied this quote Wayne made in his book Wishes Fulfilled was "the first thing I say when I awake in the morning and return to this consciousness is "THANK YOU" Knowing that the gift of one more day to learn and grow and contribute is truly a blessing. I do not want you to think that by me knowing this truth I have it nailed down. There are many days at the end where I want to run and hide from the challenges of the day. Even worse there are other days that I awake and have to take a mental running start to face what I know I need to face. What I have down at this point in life (that I did not always have at other points) I now know it is ok to ask questions and not have all of the answers.
I grew up thinking that you work hard obtain a position and then you have to have all of the answers to maintain it. I now know that not only do I not have them. I never will. What is even better is that it is great to admit that I am searching for more because that admission is what allows me to find more. The universe will not give more to someone who is sending a clear message that they do not need anything because they already know it all. It is the person who humbles them self in their search for more who continues to receive wisdom. I am so ok now with knowing that I do not have to have all of the answers but rather I have to openly search for all of the answers. The more I can do this the more opportunity I get to learn and gather answers I can share with others.
I am loving knowing that the best thing about life is just truly being me and letting others see a person in search of more so that they can share more. This is what true leadership desires. This is what growth demands. This is what life is about.....
Change.
Authenticity.
Learning.
Giving.
Growing
I encourage everyone reading this to let people truly know you today and do not look to have all of the answers but instead, look to find all of the answers and they will come with the greatest reward of knowledge.
Then you can look at all situations and realize that know matter the outside perceptions of things we encounter as good or bad, we know the truth and that is "It is now and Always was perfect"